The Sunday Mail
WHEN a man and woman enter a marriage covenant, they enter a legally binding formal agreement.
Like any other contract, marriage has a seal, which is the consummation of the marriage by sexual intercourse.
Since God is God of covenants, sex is sacred to Him. For every covenant God makes, He gives a seal of the covenant. (Hebrews 13:4)
As such any sexual relationship engagement outside marriage breaks the seal and attracts a punishment. Therefore you must never get involved in it. However, if this has already happened, repent and ask God for forgiveness, then forsake it immediately.
God created the world first; he gave man a body with which to function effectively in the physical, material world. (Genesis 1:28)
The man and woman were given the reproductive organs with which to carry out this commandment. There is therefore nothing dirty or unclean about sexual intercourse for the married.
Unfortunately as a result of the fall, man perverted this beautiful act of love making. What was designed to give man utmost pleasure, a sense of satisfaction and dignity became the avenue through which man expressed carnality. Like the wild beasts, man cheapened the sexual union. He defiled what God had intended as a seal for the covenant of marriage.
If sex is engaged in before marriage, the honour that a marriage enjoys from God and men is removed. Also, even the value each spouse places on the other will be affected. God’s creation of sexual union was for good and not for bad. However any good thing can be perverted when wrongly used.
Marriage, therefore, is only honourable when the bed is undefiled.
God’s purpose for sexual intercourse within the marriage institution is four-fold.
Procreation: He chose this unique method to replenish the earth, (Genesis 4 v 1). Paraphrased the scripture would read, “And Adam had marital sex with his wife and she conceived . . .” This along with other scriptures proves that God designed marital sex for procreation.
Pleasure: God intended that aside from the purpose of procreation, marital sex should give pleasure, (Proverbs 4:18–19).
For the breasts of man’s wife to satisfy him means for the two of them to have pleasure in marital sex. Over the centuries, the extremists justified this coming together or union to be just for one purpose only to multiply.
A woman was considered simply a child-bearing machine. Those who believed sex had an additional purpose to refurbish, to motivate and to revitalise were tagged as dangerous. Religion leaders taught that such thinking would be an open invitation to all the devises of Satan.
Marital sex was designed to give one of the highest forms of sensual pleasure ever created. Apostle Paul described it as a benevolence, which means a gift that blesses. (1 Corinthians 7:3)
Having a wholesome approach to marital sex will heal many wounds in homes. Statistics have shown that families where couples enjoy each other sexually have the happiest homes.
Intimacy: “ . . . Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a window, and saw and behold Isaac was sporting with Rebekah his wife. (Genesis 28:8)
The word “sporting” as has been suggested by Bible scholars may not be sexual relationship but foreplay. It must have been intimate enough to suggest to Abimelech that Rebecca was Isaac’s wife.
This too is a good and perfect gift from a good and perfect God. “Playing intimately with your spouse is no wrong but rather brings you close. That’s why several times the bible uses the word “know” to describe the intimate, physical relationship between husband and wife. One of Gods intention s for marriage is for the couple to know one another until they become one.
The joining to one’s spouse also describes the act of sex. For as a man is joined in physical union to his wife they become one in a way not possible with any other person. It is however only within the context of marriage that guilt does not accompany sex. If both man and woman work at making the act of sex more than just an avenue of procreation or the releasing of tension, it becomes a means of enhancing intimacy.
To avoid fornication: One other reason God designed the marriage bed was to ensure that man has a legitimate avenue for releasing sexual tension. Outside the sanctity of marriage, any sexual act, from petting to sporting and so forth is sin. Enjoy a blissful marriage.
Apostle Langton Kanyati is the founder of Zoe Life Changing Ministries and Grace Unlimited Ministries. Feedback [email protected] and WhatsApp 0772 987 844.
