Letter to a stressed friend

01 May, 2016 - 00:05 0 Views
Letter to a stressed friend

Kingsley Kaisi Lupane State University
What happens now after you read this letter is up to you. You can put it away, continue with what you were previously doing, and forget you read this. Or you can re-read it and let the words really sink in and take a deeper look at yourself and wonder if what you’re doing now is right for you.
My friend
I know things have been tough lately. Each day feels sad and you just want the ground to swallow you up because it hurts. Every day you feel like you’re on a downward spiral. You just hope that your life starts to change real soon.
It will get better if you want it to.

It is heart-changing in your life every day to constantly feel like you are in a boxing match and instead of you being the one throwing the punches, seems the punches are being thrown at you. It is a lonely feeling to hope for something and see the opposite of what you have envisaged.

I know you feel stuck in life and feel hopeless; and you probably do not know if life will get better.
In fact, you have even been trying to make a change for so long, but nothing has come out.

I know how it feels my friend that is why I write this letter. You see, life was never made for you to be the victim but to be the victor.
Your problem, situation or circumstance is not new neither are you the only one to face it.

To be blunt honest, quite a number of people have been in your shoes including me. You see, life can throw you in the mud a thousand times.

However, it is not how long you stay in the mud that determines your strength but how many times you keep on getting up.
I am telling you this because I am trying to make you realise that you are not alone.

However a better life isn’t going to be found watching television, keeping up with the Kardashians, mindlessly surfing the internet, or checking Facebook and WhatsApp every five minutes. It is not found sitting on the couch after work every night or drinking your sorrows away every weekend with your friends. Your life won’t improve if you constantly feel sorry for yourself or rely on others to make it better for you.

People will always want it easy and I wish everything was like that but sadly it isn’t.
So what will it take? I know you don’t want to hear it, but it’s going to take one day at a time. You need to start making deliberate choices and stop sleepwalking through life.

What’s even worse is you will be doing things you should be doing on a consistent basis and you’re not going to see any results or feel any different. I know that’s frustrating. This is where most people quit.

They feel the work they’re putting in is a waste of time. They quit the gym after a month. They stop selling after only a few sales. So they quit and go back to their average life and continue to blame and point fingers at others for their misery.

I don’t want that to be you. When you’re doing the right things, keep doing it. Small consistent actions over time will produce tremendous results. Anything you truly want in your life isn’t going to come easy. It is how life works.

Life is testing you to see how bad you want it. It’ll weed out the weak ones and only the determined will survive and be handsomely rewarded.

My friend, it hurts me to see so much potential go in the drain unused and wasted. I know you have something in you that is very strong.

All you need to do is to give yourself time to pick yourself up, dust yourself and continue the race.
What if I told you in 10 years’ time you will have that house you have always been dreaming of.

The one with a beautiful kitchen, 5 star living room with a plasma TV and all the channels you could want, a bedroom that has a fish tank, automatic curtains and a very amazing space for reading as well as a refrigerator filled with all those healthy foods you always talk about, from the mixed fruit salads to the crazy cheese and bacon omelette.

Also, what if I told you that in the next 2 months if you stay motivated and hopeful at your work place you might become the next permanent manager or if you keep on reading for that examination you will get distinctions.

All I am saying is, do not give up on your dream. It may be far because of what you are facing but as long as you know that there is a promised land in your life, then that is all you need to keep on going.

What happens now after you read this letter is up to you. You can put it away, continue with what you were previously doing, and forget you read this. Or you can re-read it and let the words really sink in and take a deeper look at yourself and wonder if what you’re doing now is right for you.

Is it leading you on the path where you want to go?
Are you making the right daily choices?

Will you have a life full of regret when you’re on your deathbed?
You can do something about it. You always have a choice. It doesn’t matter what happened before. What’s important is what happens from this moment on. It’s time to draw a line in the sand and separate the old you from the new you.

So quit making excuses, complaining, and finger pointing and start to do something. Life moves pretty fast. You’re not going to achieve everything at one time, but focus on just one area of your life and work on changing it to the way you want first.

I leave you this quote from Christian Larson and I hope you will have a positive outlook on your life, “Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best and expect only the best.

To be enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticise others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear and too happy to permit”.
You’re responsible for everything in your life and because of that power you can have the life you’ve always dreamed of.

Your friend,


Kingsley Kaisi is a Youth Motivational Speaker and Volunteer. He is currently studying at Lupane State University. For feedback E-mail him on: [email protected]. Students, YOU CAN SEND YOUR ARTICLES THROUGH E-MAIL, FACEBOOK, WHATSAPP or TEXT Just app Charles Mushinga on 0772936678 or send your articles, pictures, poetry, art . . . to Charles Mushinga at [email protected] or [email protected] or follow Charles Mushinga on Facebook or @charlesmushinga on Twitter. You can also post articles to The Sunday Mail Bridge, PO Box 396, Harare or call 0772936678.

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