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A soul tie is a linkage in the spiritual realm which ties two souls together. it is the knitting together of two souls.
While the Bible does not use the term “soul ties” it does speak of them when it talks about being knit together or becoming one flesh. For example in 1 Samuel 18: 1 the Bible says:
“And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul”
Thus, a soul tie can be defined as a mental, emotional or spiritual bond between two people.
How are soul ties formed? Soul ties can be as a result of a close relationship with for instance, a friend, a family member, a pastor, a teacher, a counsellor or a movie star. The soul tie between David and Jonathan was due to their close friendship.
Some soul ties are brought about by the vows that people make. For example it is not unusual to hear lovers making such statements as “ I will always love you” or “I will never be able to love another man/woman”. The Bible in Proverbs 6:2 says:
“You are snared with the words of your mouth, you are taken with the words of your mouth”
So, be careful what you say when dating or courting. Yet other soul ties are a result of sexual relations. The Message Bible in 1 Corinthians 6:16 says:
“There is more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in scripture, the two become one”.
In Genesis 34:2-3 we read about Dinah and Shechem, the Bible says:
“And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spoke kindly unto the damsel.”
Some of the most powerful and most deadly soul ties occur through sexual intercourse. In other words, one develops a soul tie with the person with whom they have sex.
The more sexual partners one has, the more soul ties they have. Put differently, multiple sexual partners lead to multiple soul ties.
A person with multiple soul ties effectively has a scattered soul. Such a person will have commitment issues in marriage.
These sexual soul ties party explain why a woman who is abused by her boyfriend or husband will in spite of the abuse keep going back to the abusive man.
It also partly explains why second marriages have an 80 percent failure rate and third marriages have a 90 percent failure rate. They also underscore the dangers of engaging in pre-marital or extra-marital sex.
There are Godly and ungodly soul ties. The soul tie between David and Jonathan was a Godly soul tie. A soul tie between a husband and his wife is a good soul tie.
However, a soul tie between a married man and his mistress is an ungodly one. A soul tie between a girlfriend and her boyfriend is an ungodly soul tie.
An ungodly soul tie puts you in bondage. Such a soul tie needs to be broken. God willing our next instalment will look at the effects of ungodly soul ties and how to break them.
Davison & Gwendoline Kanokanga; Founders & Trustees of The Marriage Centre, www.themarriagecentre.com; Founders & Senior Pastors of Impact Christian Centre; www.impactchristiancentre.net