The Sunday Mail
YOUR marriage and family life are meant to bring you tremendous joy. But not all couples enjoy their marriages.
Apostle Langton Kanyati
Many couples face constant crises and terrible difficulties, and God knows this.
Marriage is good. Do not think it is for shame and reproach. You do not have to settle for an average home, you do not have to put up with continuous quarrelling and fighting.
You can make that marriage work.
You can have a marriage free of hurts and heartaches. You can enjoy fulfilment and God’s goodness. That is the realm of marriage God wants you to enter into. He wants to bring you to a point where men and even the powers and principalities are compelled to acknowledge God’s glory that is all over your family.
That is your heritage as a child of God.
The enemy, though, is walking to and fro, looking for ”cold” homes to infiltrate. When there is fighting, discord, selfishness, quarrelling and unforgiveness, the home can be said to be “cold”.
But when there is love, understanding and harmony in a home, God rewards it with the warmth of His presence and peace that burns off the attacks of the devil which could cause tension. Although God ensures His presence and peace, the couple still have the responsibility to work together to enjoy it.
That means God’s presence is guaranteed when husband and wife join hands to ensure their marriage is run according to God’s prescriptions, such as unconditional love from the husband and submission by the wife, and doing other things to keep the fire burning.
Both of you have a part to play — it is not just for one spouse.
Men, if you want your marriage to work, the word is LOVE. Ephesians 5:25 says,“Husbands, love your wives . . .”
Love is not optional, but mandatory. And this love has its origin in God. It is not a suggestion or an admonition, but an instruction that must be obeyed.
You are to love her sacrificially and unconditionally. After all, when you took your marriage vows you willingly said before all witness that you would love her. Until you love your wife as Christ loves the church, you are not walking in agreement with the word of God.
Remember the love for your wife must come after the love of God (Ephesians 5:28-29).
You may be saying to yourself, “I am between a rock and a hard place.” You really feel your marriage cannot work anymore. You have tried but the situation seems to get worse.
Remember, God has not given up on your mate. If you do not like your woman, God can give you a new one.
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Before you curse me, hear this! I do not mean God will bring someone new into your life so you can get a divorce. Rather, He will use His miracle-working power and change the wife you have got.
If you do not like your man, He will give you a new husband by making him over again. Jesus is the miracle-worker, He changes people and He changes circumstances.
May He strengthen your marriage and rekindle your love.
At the wedding in Cana there was a crisis. They ran out of wine and Jesus performed His first miracle. He turned water into wine.
Is there a crisis or emergency with your home, your children, your husband or your wife? Jesus is there. He has not taken His eyes off you. Look to Him, trust in Him and see Him perform a miracle in your home today.
He is able.
Some spouses make their partners feel like prisoners. They are always insecure, full of destructive emotions, lack of self-confidence.
This builds a wall of resentment, anger, strife, bitterness and eventually hate. Unless the couples deals with the root cause, joy will continue to elude you.
Remember we live once — so deal with your issues.
There are times when people have differences of opinion. There is nothing wrong with that. Not every difference is strife although a difference/misunderstanding improperly dealt with opens a door for strife.
Strife is something you cannot afford to play with because it will tear down the hedge of protection around your home. You are different and you are married to someone who is different.
It is amazing how God sometimes puts opposites together. You have to learn to work with those differences, appreciate them and flow with them.
It is very important that you be in agreement and keep strife out of your marriage and home at all costs, because it is like a cancer. If you allow it to stay and block communication with one another, it will destroy you and your marriage.
Proverbs 16:32 says, “He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.”
You may be mighty in a lot of ways but if you do not have control of your spirit, you are not mighty at all. God says the mighty man or woman has control over his or her spirit.
The most powerful force on earth is the love of God. It was the love of God that sent Jesus to the earth. It was God’s love that sent Jesus to the cross. It was God’s love that raised Him from the dead.
God’s love calls us to minister love. Love will break down barriers that nothing else can break. Some people feel that by fighting in the family they can resolve differences, but real changes are made only when we minister love.
Apostle Langton C Kanyati is the founder and president of Zoe Life Changing Ministries and Grace Unlimited Ministries. Email feedback at [email protected] or on WhatsApp number 0772 987 844
