The Sunday Mail
IT is summer time and as the butterflies flutter in the blue skies, many single ladies yearn to have butterflies in their stomachs – by finding their “summer love”.
The first step in finding love is of course, a date, the first date.
In my own experience, I find first dates almost awkward. Before mastering the art of first dates, I always found myself in the worst outfits.
A first date is a “make or break moment” for many love hopefuls and thus mistakes are very common.
For women, the uncertainty and anxiety of wondering if “he is going to like me enough to ask me out” is very common before the first date.
In most parts of the world, it is still taboo for a woman to ask a guy out and therefore most women would rather let the man take the lead, which is why they try to “dress to impress” for the first date.
On the other hand, if a woman wants to ensure that there is no second date, they can dress terribly to disinterest the guy, but that’s a story for another day.
Now for those women who would want to impress on the first date, the trick is not looking desperate but still looking good.
You should aim for that “I woke up like this” flawless look with modest makeup and simple, inexpensive yet smart clothes.
Silas, a young bachelor says: “On a first date, I prefer a woman who is dressed moderately. Not to look like she made too much of an effort but not like she walked straight out of a pigsty.”
From this statement, l got the impression that men do not really know what they want a woman to look like on the first date. How then will we ever know what to wear for a first date?
Worry not, my own mistakes have taught me how to manage it, here is Style Corner’s guide to dressing for your first date.
The first thing is not to panic. We live in a superficial world where first impressions matter, so you have to face it – dressing well is a big deal!
When finding a perfect “First Date” outfit it is important to look appropriate and feel comfortable.
However, remember to keep it simple. Dress for the occasion, a dinner deserves some glitzy formal wear while a picnic demands a more casual and comfortable outfit. Comfort is needed, if you are to be uncomfortable let it be the conversation, not the outfit you chose for yourself.
That said, you do want to look sexy, show either some cleavage or legs and never both. This simple rule balances how much skin is acceptable for a first date.
Japanese Geisha culture says that simply showing your wrists and the back of your neck is deemed to be attractive to men as well. This is for those who would rather not show cleavage and legs.
Finally the last tip is if all this fails, a fitting pair of jeans and solid colour top is always a good option for a casual date. A little black dress, often given the acronym LBD, is also a good idea for a formal date.
The confidence you have in yourself is the most important part of dating. What is worth celebrating is that you have a date to go to in the first place, be yourself and good luck!
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