The Sunday Mail
Brian Ngosi
In most closes, people are in close proximity to other people, and there is a tendency to check on those others’ progress in life.
People around you can be near or far.
You may live in the same neighbourhood.
You may even be working for the same organisation.
Or it could even be people you grew up with, or went to school together.
You may be attending the same church with other people.
When you make take your own steps in life, another person may be tempted to check on your progress; or it may be the other way around.
This behaviour causes societal and peer pressures.
It is the source of many problems that lots of people endure in life.
Instead of focusing on your personal goals, people spend too much time looking sideways; checking on what other people are doing.
You are responsible for your own frustrations when make life all about competition.
Learn how something is done and run your own race.
Be inspired and challenged, but do not feel pressured to compete.
There are many variables that differentiate people, even members of the same family.
In life you only need to exhaust your potential.
Each person is blessed differently, and each life story is different.
Evaluate yourself based on the best that you can be.
There is wisdom in remembering that the differences on which you may seek to compete may only be a tiny aspect of the person you are looking at.
There is a lot that goes in a person’s life, than what catches the eye.
Being too competitive can deprive you of your inner peace.
What you see may not be a result of what you imagine.
Competing can be self-destructing.
I told a friend that I do not envy their progress, because they are now a slave of their working habits.
Living life in your time allows you to set limits and your own priorities.
This is something you may never do if you are constantly in competition mode.
If you always see life as a competition, you may be sacrificing too much.
By the time you think you have achieved certain goals, you will may be broken and alone.
When you chose to compete, you will be chasing someone else’s dreams.
You will walk a path you do not understand.
Decide your own path.
Learn to do things in the best way possible.
Even with the same resources and the same conditions, no two people will be like the next person.
Challenge yourself to live well and inspire others.
Do not compete; share notes and perfect your art.
The world can accommodate every individual at their own personal best.
At the top there is enough space to accommodate everyone.
There is also enough space at the bottom for those who destroy themselves by competing unnecessarily.
By over-competing, you may trip each other along the way.
Afford yourself space to be the best that you can be, without worrying about what the next person is doing.
Competition is a shallow approach to life; live to your full potential.
*Brian Ngosi is a life coach and motivational writer with a desire to inspire individuals to make a difference for the greater good of society. Brian can be interacted with on: [email protected], Facebook: #BN_inspired or WhatsApp: +263772440383
