The Sunday Mail
Is effective communication the cure for long distance relationships?
Distance is a test of love which many of us fail to pass.
By distance I mean the physical separation of two lovers, whether separated by cities, countries or continents.
Long distance relationships are hard work and this has exposed the laziness within many lovers hence relationships have died simply by being away from each other.
I have come across dozens of people who do not believe in long-distance relationships, they deem them a worst of times.
So does it necessarily mean if one partner goes away the relationship follows.
It goes down the drain too?
Is it to do with our ‘fast’ generation that relationships no longer last?
What happened to the forbearance?
I think there are certain basics which strengthen long-distance relationships.
The first thing is acceptance that effort is needed from both sides, and trying to keep things afloat is key.
How is that done?
Communication is everything.
It’s important to communicate as much as possible on all social media platforms.
It’s a cool thing this technology thing.
Most believe it to be the thing that is destroying relationship as infidelity has reared its ugly head and been made easy by social media platforms like WhatsApp, Facebook and even twitter.
A friend of mine once told me this interesting point that our fathers and grandfathers’ infidelity used to be brought to light at their funerals, whereas it’s easy to get caught nowadays through social media.
All one needs to do is forget to delete their messages.
However, social media also has an upside in relationships, particularly the long distance type.
Skype, video calling and instant messages have made communication easy.
Obviously life is not always predictable, the future is also unknown, but if you are in the habit of communicating as much as possible then there is no reason why long distance relationships can’t work.
Lack of communication leads to insecurities and being insecure crushes you more than the next person.
It is actually toxic for the relationship.
Effective communication is a bridge for the long distance, telling your partner how much you love them and acting likewise despite the distance, is so cool for long distance relationships.
Your partner doesn’t have to be next to you for you to show that you care.
Your LOVE can be felt even overseas.
Effective communication also douses monotony.
There is also the other long distance of those lovers who have been together for many years that they know each deeply.
I have heard some crying of ‘boring relationships’ after only three years together, it’s like the fire has been doused.
“She is no longer funny”, “He cares no more, the sweet things are now foreign”, are some of the common cries.
Is distance that much of a strain that loves fades?
It comes back to the foundation, the reason why you are together, if it is love, well love never fades, and it should not end.
But if you loved each other for example material stuff or status, well those have got a lifespan.
So it comes back to the basics, everyone has to play their role to keep things exciting, you can refresh and start dating again, try new hobbies together, create new memories the spark can be found again.
Remember love is a beautiful verb.
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