The Sunday Mail
Life Issues with FGK
MARRIAGE is a unique union between two people.
It brings together people of the opposite sex, who are usually not related, to live together.
The love that is typical in this kind of relationship is the “phileo” kind of love.
In essence, the Greek term phileo describes the deeper bond borne out of affection, fondness and liking that often leads to everlasting marriage.
Sadly, that is not always the case.
Marriage is full of both pleasant and unpleasant surprises.
This is largely because people are different.
No one is perfect.
When getting married, make sure you are prepared for whatever the union will throw at you. If truth be told, all couples you see are busy fighting battles on a daily basis to make sure the union stays intact.
It takes effort, not a miracle.
Parties to a marriage come from different backgrounds and have to learn to live together. This makes unions a learning curve, where partners take time to fully understand each other.
The first years in marriage are often the most difficult.
There is a lot of excitement, pressure, high expectations and ignorance.
If not properly handled, all these factors can unfortunately lead to disaster.
Most fights that are experienced later in marriage can be traced to the early days of the union.
It is important for spouses to meet halfway by finding common ground when their life journey together begins.
For example, marrying a fairly young woman will mean she will have to unlearn some of the things that she considered to be norm and learning new things in order for the marriage to stand the test of time.
Learning each other, adjusting and mutually agreeing on the way to live your lives is tough and doesn’t happen overnight.
Marriage then becomes a place where the husband should be able to teach his wife what he expects, and the wife also should do the same.
This process is unavoidable.
But marriages do not come with a manual for them to last.
Not all couples publicly parade the true state of their marriages; some of them just keep up appearances.
The success or failure of a marriage depends solely on couples in the union.
Issues such as abuse and infidelity that affect marriages have to be openly discussed.
It is worth remembering that marriage partners come from different backgrounds, hence the need to learn, understand, embrace and appreciate each other.
Divorce is never a solution!
Quote of the week: Spouses come from different backgrounds and have to learn to live together.
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