The Sunday Mail
Brian Ngosi
The world responds fairly to your input.
The known world population is in the billions, and habitable areas continue to be overpopulated.
The truth is no one exists in a vacuum, but funny enough you can be lonely in this crowded world.
Friendship should be valued because it reflects whether or not you are in touch with others in society.
Friendship is the richest relationship that you can ever invest in.
In friendship, you are not bound by anything other than common interests.
If you cannot make and keep friends, you carry the burden of facing life alone.
Making friends is easy as it can be by association, environment or by default.
The million-dollar question is: how do you lose those who are close enough to be your friends?
There are those kinds who are out to always be receiving, do not know how to share but are always ready to receive.
If you have never been praised and cheerfully thanked, then perhaps you are not a worthy friend.
Every function or activity comes together when people pool their resources together, yet you are the type of person known for always pitching up empty-handed for every gathering.
Do you abscond all events where you should contribute but never miss a free show?
There is that one friend comfortable with being pampered from drinks to meals but never sees it fit to provide even the most basic round of water.
Does it occur that you have never given a gift to any of your friends? When it is a friend’s birthday you can afford to forget but when it’s your time you dare to remind everyone on your list to do something for you.
Can it be true that you have never gone out of your way to help a friend but find yourself with people holding your hands during your time of need for someone?
If your list of people who have helped you is longer than those you have extended your hand to then sooner or later you will be fighting lone battles.
Friendship is not planned it just happens.
When it does manifest friendship sticks only if nurtured by love honesty and ingenuity.
There is no way you will pretend to care and remain as good friends.
Friends are not those people you remember in time of need but those that you wish to be with you to celebrate life.
Make no mistake of calling someone your friend yet you do not know where they stay.
If you know nothing to very little about someone do not lie to yourself that you are friends.
If someone needs an explanation before they help you then they are not your friends.
Friends weather the storm with you and laugh it off. Your friends are those people that you create good and bad memories with.
In good and bad times, you need your friends who enjoy and endure with you. With friends, you give life meaning and a super glow so make an effort to keep your friends
The one thing that destroys friendship is parasitic behaviour. If you are to keep friends let people depend on you more than they carry your burden.
You lose your friends if you are not sociable. Be there to laugh and cry at the appropriate time.
Friendship is not about what you benefit; it is about what you give. There is more to friendship than sharing material things.
If you can afford to oppose the season your friend is going through then that is the parting shot to your relationship.
Be that shoulder that your own can depend on and live to tell the same story of your seasons.
Be that one person who can make a courtesy call or visit with pure intentions.
Let it not be a culture that you call when you want something or your call is always a distress call.
Your presence should be a blessing, not a burden.
As you go out make friends, be purposeful in spreading love as that gives you peace more than anything else in life. Any other motive other than love should define your relationship differently.
When it comes to friendship do not try too hard, putting an effort into making friends is a recipe for frustration.
If someone cannot naturally hold your hand, there is no need to remind them to do so.
Keep guard, you need your friends if you are going to lead a healthy life.
*Brian Ngosi is a life coach and motivational writer with a desire to inspire individuals to make a difference for the greater good of society. Brian can be interacted with on: [email protected], Facebook: #BN_inspired or WhatsApp: +263772440383
