The Sunday Mail
Life Issues with FGK
NO matter how good a person’s life is, they can never gain full control of their emotions.
The best way to deal with emotions is to manage them.
Women are often mocked or labelled as emotional and weak.
But guess what? That is what makes them special beings.
They are well acquainted with the way they feel.
Women are always in touch with their emotions, meaning their mind and soul are in sync.
Emotions are natural and a crucial part of our lives, thus we must get training on how to manage rather than getting rid of them.
There can never be a time when one does not feel anything.
Emotions make up the wide range of feelings that we experience time and again.
In short, one cannot be emotionless unless they are a zombie.
However, you should never allow these feelings to control you.
If you are not careful, they will run and ruin your relationship(s), be it business, marriage, dates or any other association.
Emotions that characterise a normal human being range from fear, sadness, happiness and sexual, among others.
These are important elements that distinguish every human being.
It is when these emotions are manifesting that people at times reveal the not so common side of their character.
Similarly, it is not wise to suppress them as this is tantamount to creating a ticking time bomb.
The best line of action is to allow the emotion to be processed by the mind and that way you will be able to react in a much better way.
I will give an example.
Say your husband has made you angry, there is no way you can sweep that emotion under the carpet and try not to show it.
You must show that you are angry. That is the only way to allow the anger to be processed.
Allow the tears to drop if you feel like crying; that alone is therapy!
Anger vented through proper systems does not cause harm to anyone.
Danger only arises when your emotions force you to react without thinking.
Anger is a feeling that alerts you that you have been wronged, but it must not be allowed to dwell much within your mind or heart.
It is a negative emotion which should be replaced with a positive one as quickly as possible for the good of your health.
Many people, especially men, try to hide their emotional side since they are told from childhood that it is a weakness.
That is a wrong assumption.
In fact, most of the tragic cases that we come across are caused by this suppression.
It is important that one vent out the moment they feel like doing so.
We also have people that feel guilty when they get aroused say by a photo of an attractive person in a magazine.
Those feelings do not make you less human or evil, but they are part of what makes you human like the rest.
Strength is about putting feelings and emotions under control in the right way.
Sometimes we wake up on the wrong side of the bed, feeling we must just tell that husband to go to hell, or that boss that we are quitting.
It is normal.
But often when the morning starts like this, the day ends with us being pulled by the exact chain of negative emotions that we woke up in.
It is always best to programme our minds to start the day on a positive vibe.
It is always good to say; “Thank you, Jesus, for the gift of life today” each morning you wake up and see how it goes.
Most likely you will begin to run your life more on positive emotions like gratitude, hope, joy, love and laughter.
When you fill your day with good emotions, you prolong your life; you are joyful and less likely to have aging wrinkles quickly.
Nurturing good emotions is the best medicine for all that we go through.
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