The Sunday Mail
Life Issues with FGK
VALENTINE’s Day is just around the corner — it is a day to celebrate the love of the ones we have chosen to be with and the ones that chose to be with us.
Love is about choosing each other and creating memories. Whether you are dating or married, know that every relationship is about celebrating the happy moments and turning a blind eye on the unpleasant ones.
To enjoy and to give the day its true meaning, we need to uphold Valentine’s Day as a time to celebrate love and not its history. So it is not about the personality of St Valentine, but it is the theme of the day that we celebrate.
People are there because of reproduction. Reproduction is a fruit of love. Love has to be at the centre of it all. Love has to be the reason you are with him or her. It does not have to be anything else.
There are instruments that aid the manifestation of love but they should remain as such. When lovers dwell on the instruments too much, that union becomes compromised. People should realise that material things are only there to marinade real love and also to beam some light on it.
Material things can never be a symbol of love. They just aid in making love blossom. They are the vehicles that help carry the message of love across, therefore, they should not be the foundations on which unions sit on.
This Valentine’s Day, people spend and spoil their loved ones. Some tend to dwell so much on materialism and forget that love is love even in the absence of money.
The moment money becomes the pivot of your relationship, disaster is looming.
Normally people tend to forget many things that matter in life because of demanding socio-economic settings. Our focus has drifted from the facets of life that really matter as they don’t seem to bring any financial benefits to us.
We even need to be reminded that we ought to tell our better-halves that we love them over and over again.
Had it not been for Valentine’s Day, the whole year could end without us finding time to appreciate our partners’ love.
It is very important to be grateful for your partner’s love and to show it. Remember you are not the only man or woman out there. Your partner had many options to choose from, but they chose you. In fact, they are choosing you daily.
Every day, they are making a conscious decision to love you.
Therefore, they are worth celebrating, are they not? Imagine how far he or she goes out of his or her way for you.
If they are your wife or husband, see how much they are putting in daily to fend for the children. Imagine how much that person has been there for you, standing by your side and protecting you.
Look back, go back a few years ago, look at yourself and see what you used to be. Did you ever dream of being with someone this good? Do you even deserve them? Do you know that you are what you are because of him or her?
Is that not good enough to celebrate them?
He might not even buy you flowers or chocolates. She might not even buy you a pair of stockings on the day. But all that should not be a deal breaker, just bear in mind that he or she loves you with or without gifts — they are your greatest gift.
Unfortunately, some of the things we concentrate on are negative. Instead of appreciating your partner, you think of their mischief, all the fights you have had with them, their unfaithfulness and so on.
Just remember that they have not chosen to leave you. The two of you have gone through thick and thin.
They forgave you each time you wronged them. When it is your turn to forgive them, remember that you are not a saint. Never treat trivial issues as if they are a disaster. Keep issues real, keep it simple.
There is so much to celebrate in love — trust, patience, compromises, forgiveness, selflessness, sacrifice, joy and every other good thing that comes with it.
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