VICTORIOUS LIVING: Myths about sex and Christianity

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VICTORIOUS LIVING: Myths about sex and Christianity Victorius Living: Fatima Bulla

The Sunday Mail

Victorius Living: Fatima Bulla
Victorius Living: Fatima Bulla

News of couples divorcing seem to be making headlines left, right and centre as our society increasingly becomes liberal.

A fortnight ago I attended a seminar hosted by senior pastors at Impact Christian Centre, David and Gwendolyn Kanokanga, and it was a real eye-opener.

The main subject was pre-marital sex and, as I look back, married couples could have benefited from the pastors’ talks as some of the topical issues like that on soul ties would come in handy when a couple thinks of parting ways.

There are many types of soul ties. For instance, 1 Samuel 18v1 tells of David and Jonathan’s great friendship.

But for this week’s instalment of Victorious Living, I will concentrate on that tie that comes from engaging in sex, matrimonial or otherwise.

The seminar targeted singles since this is where foundational decisions for future relationships begin, and as such should be treated with utmost care and deliberation.

We all know some of the negatives of premarital sex: unwanted pregnancies, diseases and emotional trauma.

What one needs to remember is that sex was originally created by God for the pleasure of matrimony and as a means of procreation.

One of the myths is that people believe it does not matter what they do with their physical bodies, only the spirit is important.

This myth contradicts what God says in that we ought to present our bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to Him.

Another myth is that sex is regarded as a natural instinct or need which we all have and to repress it is damaging to physical and mental health, but the truth is God has given us the ability to control ourselves.

It is one of the tenets of “free will” which is arguably God’s greatest gift to mankind and that which separates us from the rest of creation.

No one has died from not engaging in premarital sex, but this is not necessarily true as quite a number have indeed died as a direct consequence of either through the numerous diseases and infections or those factors like botched attempts at abortion.

Apart from it being a physical act, sex is spiritual as it creates bonds between people involved.

Do you wonder why a woman who is battered by a man still returns and gets impregnated by the same man? It is a soul tie.

Quoting 1 Corinthians 6:16, Pastor Kanokanga highlighted that there is more to sex than mere physical contact.

Pastor Kanokanga said sex was a soul tie because it could bond people who were continents apart.

He said people entered marriages with soul ties from past relationships because in their mind they carried the myths of harmless premarital sex.

Very soon, people begin to compare their spouse, be it their physical make-up or actions in the matrimonial bed, with the Tom, Dick or Harry they were involved with before they got married.

Because they do not seek religious intervention to break these covenants, the soul ties wreck their marriages.

To quote Pastor Gwendolyn: “Who would have told you your spouse has a smaller organ unless you are comparing with what you might have experienced before marriage?”

There is a disadvantage for a spouse competing with an unseen past that was never dealt with and this can destroy a marriage.

Now that we understand that a part of you is joined to the other in sex, let it also dawn on you who leaves a piece of you with every man or woman you sleep with.

Why would one call up a past lover’s name when they are in bed with their spouse? Busy dreaming of someone who has moved on with their life!

It is because you did not deal with that soul tie so that memory comes every so forth, usually at the most inopportune times.

Further, the habit of sleeping around facilitates transference of spirits and demons. No wonder why some dream of tokoloshis having sex with them.

Pastor Kanokanga said in such a scenario commitment to the spouse becomes minimal because the spirit is scattered all over their past partners, and only a small piece is left and given to the spouse.

So to take Pastor Kanokanga’s advice; ” . . . to fear God is to hate what God hates and love what he loves.”

Why not wait until you are married, and walk in the spirit (Galatians 5:16) leading a word-controlled life?

To those that have engaged in sex before marriage seek deliverance and cut yourself from past covenants.

Our God is a forgiving God.

To those in troubled marriages, seek the source of your problems for it might be the soul ties that need to be dealt with.

Until next week watch out for The Sunday Mail at your place of worship and keep living a victorious life in the name of our Saviour and Lord Jesus Christ.

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