The Sunday Mail
Life Issues with FGK
POPULAR American author Simone Elkeles once said, “There is a thin line between love and hate.”
This quote is loaded.
However, in our case today, it simply shows that the vow of “to love and to hold” needs be treated with caution.
One should really know what they are getting themselves into.
Yes, it could be because of love, but it may end up differently.
“To love and to hold” is a vow repeatedly made during weddings as a love oath.
But, what does it really mean?
Do those who make it understand what it means?
The vow literally means one will be there for their partner under any circumstances.
The current alarming rate of divorces makes one wonder if people truly understand why they get into unions and the sort of commitment required.
In some cases, the vow is varied to “to have and to hold”.
“To have” is to receive without reservation.
It is not a statement of ownership, but rather a promise of unconditional acceptance.
But, looking at the rate people are divorcing, it then becomes a question of whether they truly understand the meaning behind the words.
Are people getting into marriages of convenience?
Of course, there are cases where divorce is understandable, but that is a discussion for another day.
Before getting married, understand what it means.
Marriages should last forever.
As they say, “till death do us part.”
Matthew 19:6-7 reads: “What, therefore, God has joined together let no man put asunder.”
This means couples should not be separated by any situation or anyone no matter how bad their circumstances might be.
Yes, we have cases of infidelity, but I wonder why someone should be unfaithful after taking such an oath.
Unfaithfulness simply means lack of commitment!
What does the statement “I, (name), take you (name) to be my lawfully wedded (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part” mean?
When you make such an oath, you should mean every word.
Couples may have differences because they come from different backgrounds, but they should work on them and find common ground without necessarily divorcing.
Even twins have differences, so why do you expect your partner to be the same as you?
Only death should separate couples.
Never entertain thoughts of infidelity.
Each time you are tempted, revisit your marriage oath.
Learn to have the best moments in life with the one you love.
Renew your marriage vows if you feel you missed it along the way.
Your partner deserves to be loved to the fullest, no matter the circumstances.
Always be a person of his or her word.
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