The Sunday Mail
Nyasha Phiri L6, Dzivaresekwa 1 High
A lie is not only what you do when you stand up in court and perjure yourself, there are varying shades and degrees of dishonesty.
Socially, lies form part of the fabric of our everyday conversation.
Often we agree with what someone has said because we are too insecure to offer a conflicting opinion.
Not saying what we really think means we are always lying to ourselves as well as to the people whom we pretend to agree with.
It also goes deeper than this, simply agreeing with your friend or fellow student for the sake of pleasing him, without bothering to consider what your real opinion is, also constitutes a lie.
Of course other students or pupils may not react favourably when you suddenly start speaking the truth.
But dealing with the responses to your honesty means taking responsibility for your own thoughts.
It may shock your colleagues when you eventually start to challenge the assumption you have always allowed them to make about you, but in the end they will love and respect you for it.
You would be surprised to know how much ‘‘little lies’’ can destroy our peace of mind.
Not only do you have to remember who you have told what, about whom and when, but you are also constantly on guard not to let anyone know what you have lied about.
What I am saying is that honesty is less complicated.
Telling the truth always makes your life simpler be it academically, physically or emotionally.
Do you know why? Because being honest enables you to relax and be yourself around your friends and other people instead of displaying pretences or trying to lie in order to please people whom you may not please at all in the end.
You do not know yet for how long you have to live and lie for others to obtain what you want, but instead, like Henry David Thoreau, said:
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams and live the life you have imagined.”