NEW: Are there conditions in which love relationships should end?

03 Sep, 2022 - 15:09 0 Views
NEW: Are there conditions in which love relationships should end?

The Sunday Mail

Brian Matsaira

THE simple answer is yes.

There are conditions where a love relationship has to end, or where a divorce is permissible.

Couples are allowed to divorce in the Bible, if adultery is involved.

If a partner is not happy to continue living with a cheating partner, the word of God allows that partner to end the relationship.

Matthew 5 vs 32 says:

“But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality…”

Sexual immorality is singled out as a condition for a couple to divorce, if they so wish to go in that direction.

When people are in a love relationship, but not yet married they may realise that they are not compatible.

There is no reason to force things; it is therefore good that they separate before marriage. Love is not something that should be forced. The relationship must flow like water.

When you see cheating tendencies, even before marriage, that is a red flag. You can walk away from that relationship.

The problem is that when people are in love they tend to ignore the signs.

What you see during dating will be amplified in marriage.

If you can see abusive tendencies before you get married, that person will be very abusive in marriage.

I know many women that were assaulted during the dating stage, and the beating continued or even got worse when they were married.

When your lover is unfaithful, it is important to understand that this is a character flaw.

A partner cannot change a character flaw.

A person who loves many lovers will always love many lovers.

If you decide to get married to a person who cheats, do not ever think you will change that person from loving other people.

There is no such thing as “I will change her/him”.

Change is an individual’s choice. People change only because they want to.

A person who is not happy to be with you when dating, will also not be happy to be with you in marriage.

Many people seem to love the idea of forcing love.

Sometimes you can force love and have temporary success, but understand that you will be in a relationship in which you are always going to be forcing things.

End a relationship where you are forcing things to happen.

It is very possible to be in a relationship where you find yourself forcing your lover to see you, forcing your lover to talk to you, forcing your lover to make love with you, and forcing your lover to love you.

There will come a time when you shall have an emotional breakdown.

This forcing thing will eventually take away your peace, and it will take away all your energy.

This will make you stop focusing on important things in life, as you are always forced to be fixing your relationship.

It is difficult to be the one always wanting a relationship to work, while your partner is not putting in any effort.

How long will you beg for love?

It is always wise to recognise early that you are not loved.

When you recognise this, move on with your life and look for someone who genuinely loves you.

End a relationship in which you are the only one putting effort, but not getting anything in return.

You cannot be the only one being used and abused.

However, it is important to note that it is not easy to terminate a marriage because many things must be put into consideration.

Couples must look at the welfare of their children, how they are going to divide their assets, and ensure co-existence of their children with their new partners.

If the married couple is in business, they should also consider the continuity of their businesses.

They also have to learn how to live without each other, which can be a hard thing to do.

*Brian Matsaira is a love and relationships coach. He can be contacted on 0773383687. Or email: [email protected]

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