The Sunday Mail
Apostle Langton Kanyati
Marriage is the only relationship that is likened to the relationship between Christ and the Church by the Bible, “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church . . . ” Ephesians 5v23.
This union today is under siege because the devil knows that by attacking marriages he is attacking the church. So every couple and those intending to get married must understand that building a home matters more than building a house.
In order to build a home we need to follow God’s building codes which are found in the Bible. While a house can be defined as a dwelling that serves as living quarters for one or more families, a home can be referred to as an environment offering affection and security or an institution where people are cared for. It is thus important to note that marriage was first instituted by God and as such he meant it to be an enjoyable partnership.
If we build it according to God’s way, nothing, no matter how forceful it is, will be able to destroy it. This does not mean to say that there will be no challenges in your marriage.
Understand that strong marriages are strong not because there are no misunderstandings in those relationships; rather they are strong because of the couples’ resolve to deal with issues of conflict. At the same time, what matters is how you build the relationship in the first place.
Suppose you were going to build a house, you cannot build it anyhow because most cities have building codes with which you have to comply.
These building codes have regulations regarding location of the house, foundations, termite control,plumbing standards,wiring specifications and numerous other matters. The inspectors will approve every stage.
For a strong house, you ought to build on the best foundation. Some cracks you see on some buildings are a result of weak foundations, it is the same with marriages.
Some couples attempt to build on faulty foundations. They marry for the wrong reasons. Some enter into marriage as a kind of experiment, if they are not happy with the results they leave. These treat marriage as a temporary thing.
Others marry for infatuation. The man gets struck by the beauty of the woman and the woman gets overwhelmed by the physical looks of the man’s body. Others panic when they pass a certain age and marry out of emotional insecurity. Yet the Bible has the only proper foundation for building a home:
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2v24.
To build a home each spouse need to give priority to their partner. The words to “leave” and to “cleave” describe commitment as the Biblical basis for marriage. The man leaves his parents in a public act and promises himself to his wife. The two are joined together by taking responsibility for each other’s welfare and by loving the mate above all others.
Remember, the woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam;not made out of the head to rule over her or out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him,under his arm to be protected and near his heart to be loved.
If man is the head she is the crown. The man was dust refined and the woman was dust double-refined. Therefore you are not to endure your marriage but to enjoy it.
Apostle Langton C Kanyati is the founder and president of Zoe Life Changing Ministries and Grace Unlimited Ministries.