Marriage Hub: Marriage not a one-night stand

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The Sunday Mail

Apostle Langton Kanyati

Marriage was the first institution created by God. Whenever you start talking about the marriage, home and family, God gets involved. After God had created Adam and the animals, there was no suitable companion or “help-meet” for Adam. Then in Genesis 2v18, God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make a help-meet for him.”

The word meet means, “suited, qualified, adapted, complimentary or compatible.” In other words, Eve was a suitable helper to Adam. But it was when they were not at the same place when the serpent found the opportunity to tempt Eve resulting in the fall.

God made the woman to be with the man as a companion. Adam was lonely. He had everything in the world he could possibly need but there was a loneliness (an emptiness) on the inside of him that was not satisfied. Eve filled this need.

She completed Adam, just as God created wives today to complete their husbands. Unfortunately many today are married singles. They are married but lonely. As a result individuals end up seeking companionship outside. Couples therefore, must spend quality time together. When you are married, your best friend is your spouse. Play together and enjoy each other’s company.

The Lord intends that there be an intimacy between the husband and wife so the physical, emotional and total needs of both can be met in that relationship. This kind of intimacy takes work. It takes commitment. Intimacy is the willingness to be open and transparent with your mate. It is sharing of thoughts, dreams, desires and feelings in a free and flowing relationship.

Nothing is hidden or restrained in a truly intimate relationship. There is no shame, fear or embarrassment in this level of love. To develop intimacy at all levels in every phase of a relationship takes time. Don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t happen immediately, rather continue to believe for God’s best.

The most important thing for you to realise is that marriage is a covenant relationship to which God is a party. A covenant contains elements of a bond, an agreement or a contract, but a covenant is far more than all these put together. It involves a union or uniting together and a commitment of one’s total life to another. You may be thinking, “I don’t know if the person I’m living with right now is the right one for me.”

Well if you are married to that individual, they are the right one. You are in a covenant relationship.

One of the things couples need to understand concerning marriage is that it is for life. You are married for life and don’t think of an alternative. Set your sights on the fact that whatever difficulties may arise, you will work them out. Always seek God’s help and wisdom to find the solutions to those challenges and make that marriage relationship work. In life also, God has raised men and women we are accountable to and we can go to them for godly counsel.

Remember when you commit your lives to each other; it’s not a one-night stand. It’s not a one-week deal and it’s not an every-now-and-then relationship. It’s a commitment that says, “I will be with you for the rest of my life.”

Enjoy your marriage in Jesus’ name. What God has joined together let no man put asunder.

Your marriage is forever. We take authority over the spirit of confusion, strife, adultery and divorce and over all the powers of darkness assigned against your marriage in the Mighty name of Jesus Christ!


Apostle Langton Charles Kanyati; Founder and President; Zoe Life Changing Ministries and Grace Unlimited Ministries; E-mail: [email protected]

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