Courtship is not a hobby

18 Oct, 2020 - 00:10 0 Views
Courtship is  not a hobby

The Sunday Mail

Life Issues
with FGK

“AS I gazed in her eyes, I could no longer see anyone else around us. I could not hear anything because my heart was speaking louder, telling me, ‘she was the one’.”

Most people who are in love often find themselves in this situation.

They get trapped in a surreal world to such an extent that everything else stops to matter.

But what exactly is courtship?

Should it be all about having goosebumps and going crazy about another person?

I would imagine that this is a phase that everyone goes through in life.

It is a period in a romantic relationship where couples try to learn more about each other before they decide to commit to build a future together.

The Oxford dictionary defines courtship as the time when two people have a romantic relationship before they get married.

It is essentially the process of developing a relationship.

If you notice from the definitions, courtship is not for the fun of it, but it is a major step that leads to
marriage.

Thus, as a youths, it is important to understand the reason for dating – to take baby steps towards marriage.

Everything done with a purpose is meaningful.

Some people can actually fall in love even before they have actually taken time to understand their love interest.

The question now is: How does one know they are with the right person?

The answer can only become clear after a relationship.

It is, however, important to listen to one’s heart and pray about it.

This means when considering a life partner, it might not be ideal to propose love to someone during the first encounter.

Take time to listen to your body and heart to see if she or he is the one.

When you are certain, you can then move on to the next step.

During the relationship, try to explore if it would be possible to live together as husband and wife.

At this juncture, it is also prudent to let others — your mother, sister, brother or even dad — know about your future plans.

Also, both parties should be open to each other.

There is no room for secrets.

These steps are important for they save you from wasting your time or getting heartbroken by tagging along with someone that you are not compatible with.

But before approaching or being approached by someone, give yourself time to understand who you are and the kind of person that you would like to share a life with.

In the past weeks, we have been trying to help youths understand their personality because that is important before they embark on their life journey.

Knowing oneself can help to identify the kind of person they want to be with and identify the person who can help them grow.

A sound relationship with God cannot be overemphasised.

When you fear the Lord and live by His principles, courtship will not be as hard and tempting.

The main factors that build a strong relationship are God, love, trust, honesty and communication.

In other words, being an open person, truthful, faithful and effective communicator can be very helpful.

Lying and misrepresentations can be disastrous to any relationship.

Courtship, therefore, is a very important part of life, and it should not be taken for granted.

It builds the foundation to a happy life.

Youths have the opportunity to never make the kind of mistakes that were made by those that came before them.

Patience is a virtue.

 

Quote of the week: Courtship is not for the fun of it, but is a major step that leads to marriage.

 

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