The Sunday Mail
THERE have been hard times — maybe even devastating times — but somehow you are working through life.
The kids seem happy enough. You provide for them the best you can: a decent education, plenty of outside activities as loving parents. Your marriage couldn’t be better.
But for some reason, there is a nagging feeling deep inside you, hinting that there’s something more. It is as if there is a secret that some of your friends and neighbours know, giving them that special edge on life, but somehow you have missed it. You have seen the glow from inside the relationships of their homes — even when they are having problems.
What makes them different? How can you know the secret? Every couple eventually has to deal with problems in the home. There is no perfect marriage and family.
Problems like finances, communication, and conflict resolution are all important to work through in order to cultivate strong, loving relationships.
But there is a secret. This is the basic issue at the heart of every problem in every marriage. No matter how hard you try, this is one problem that is too big for you to deal with on your own.
Do you want to know the secret for building the type of marriage and family relationships you desire?
The secret is this: If you want to experience marriage the way it was designed to be, you need a vital relationship with the God who created you and offers you the power to live a life of joy and purpose.
Jesus Christ said, “I came that they might have life, and have it abundantly.” And Psalm 16:11 tells us that in God’s presence is “fullness of joy.” God gives us a biblical plan for making family relationships work — and then He gives us the power to follow that plan through a relationship with Him. If you want to experience marriage the way it was designed to be, you need a vital relationship with Jesus Christ.
Revolutionising your marriage: This new commitment of your life to God will enrich your marriage. Sharing with your spouse what you have committed to is a powerful step in solidifying this commitment. As you exhibit the Holy Spirit’s work within you, your spouse may be drawn to make the same commitment you have made.
If both of you have given control of your lives to the Holy Spirit, you will be able to help each other remain true to God, and your marriage may be revolutionised. With God in charge of your lives, life becomes an amazing adventure. After your marriage is revolutionised, the following will manifest:
Love and Commitment: At its core, love is a decision to be committed to another person. It is far more than a fleeting emotion as portrayed on television, the big screen, and romance novels. Feelings come and go, but a true decision to be committed lasts forever — and that is what defines true love. It is a decision to be committed through the ups and the downs, the good and the bad. When things are going well, commitment is easy. But true love is displayed by remaining committed even through the trials of life.
Sexual Faithfulness: Sexual faithfulness in marriage includes more than just our bodies. It also includes our eyes, mind, heart, and soul. When we devote our minds to sexual fantasies about another person, we sacrifice sexual faithfulness to our spouse. When we offer moments of emotional intimacies to another, we sacrifice sexual faithfulness to our spouse. Guard your sexuality daily and devote it entirely to your spouse. Sexual faithfulness requires self-discipline and an awareness of the consequences. Refuse to put anything in front of your eyes, body, or heart that would compromise your faithfulness.
To be continued…
- Apostle Kanyati is the president and founder of Zoe Life Changing Ministries andnd Grace Unlimited interdenominational. Feedback: [email protected] and WhatsApp +263772987844
