The Sunday Mail
Apostle Langton Kanyati
A wife’s attractiveness is an important ingredient to the success of her marriage.
Any wife who ignores this notion for whatever reasons, risks disaster. When a woman accepts the responsibility to maintain an attractive appearance for her husband, she will only heighten her moral.
By calling for a wife to be attractive, I mean she would take pains to look almost like the woman he fell in love with, not a movie star or some other fantasy.
It may sound immature or superficial, but most men do not appreciate a woman for her inner qualities alone.
A man’s need for physical attractiveness in a woman is profound. When a man looks at his wife and is disappointed by what he sees, it puts him in a terrible situation. As a woman, make yourself attractive.
Being physically attracted to his wife is a basic need for a man. Men are much more visual than women. Therefore women should take care of their appearance.
It puzzles many men why some women are much more careful about this before marriage than after.
Ladies, remember that attractiveness is what you do with what you have. Some of the most attractive women may have physical features that taken by themselves violate our culture’s norms for beauty.
But by making the most of what they have, they have become stunning in appearance.
Some women probably think they have now captured their man so they no longer have to try so hard. But if he likes you with a little make-up, you should put it on out of love and keep the flame alive.
A wife should take care of herself to keep the chemistry going. She should be well aware of her husband’s needs. Do this for your husband, not for other women as very often happens. Find out what he likes because sometimes what society tells you to do he may not like.
A woman’s mystery is what captivates her husband so don’t ignore what matters to your husband. Avoid the dangers of your man being attracted to a stranger.
One simple test of a wife’s attractiveness is how much her husband likes to look at her. Another test is what he does after he looks at her. Man on his part ought to understand that an attractive woman is made and not born. You are therefore to make her feel attractive. Always use words that make her feel like a woman, loved and attractive.
This need has been with her since her childhood. Girls love compliments, while boys don’t really care. A woman needs praise, so don’t be economical with it.
Like Songs of Solomon 1v15 you can say: “Behold you are beautiful, my love! Behold you are beautiful”.
Your woman is your best. She is the unique one. Beauty is very subjective, but in a husband’s eyes his wife has to be the most beautiful woman in the world. He should only have eyes for her. A husband needs to learn to be his wife’s lover, to see beyond her flaws.
A wise man will make his wife feel attractive. Out of all the women in the world, make her feel she is the only one you care about romantically. You chose her and she is the only one for you.
She comes before your mother, children, siblings and friends because according to the word of God you are now “one flesh”.
If anyone in your family doesn’t like your wife, you should be ready to walk into that relative’s house holding her hand, proving that she is important to you and that you will defend her at all cost.
If there is a woman at your job or in your circle of friends who makes your wife insecure it’s your responsibility to make her secure only with your words but your actions too.
Husband and wife must protect and defend each other otherwise their marriage will fail. We thank God for your parents and your siblings but marriage is between the two of you.
As you keep digging to discover the needs of your spouse, realise that you need to maintain the beauty that struck your spouse to you when you first met. Never take your partner for granted assuming that you have already won him or her over.
Purposefully seek to look beautiful for your partner. Remember that you are on the same team. Stay united against the problems and put the wellbeing of your team first.
Apostle Langton Charles Kanyati is the founder and president of Zoe Life Changing & Grace Unlimited Ministries. Email feedback at [email protected] and WhatsApp +263772987844
