The Sunday Mail
Mainini is angry, very angry indeed.
My anger is stemming from this trend, this shocking trend that appears to have become the norm in our lives as married Zimbabweans.
To cool off my anger I am just going to steam off right here.
Infidelity everywhere! Including in the church!
The other year, the High Court authorities were talking about their agitation over the high divorce rate in the country.
While they did not attribute the high divorce rate to infidelity, it is clear most of the divorces were inspired by it.
I hear some partners claim that infidelity in some cases saves marriages from collapse.
How?
I am yet to get a clear explanation and will be happy if someone can share their testimony on this!
Infidelity, also referred to as cheating, adultery, or having an affair, is the subjective feeling that one’s partner has violated a set of rules or relationship norms and this violation results in feelings of sexual jealousy and rivalry, (Leeker & Carlozzi, 2012).
So many stories have been told of married men and women having extra-marital affairs some of which have led to the breakdown of marriages of concerned parties in the village.
Some of the infidelity has led to the birth of children.
In our village, tales are told of couples who have lived with the shame of their partner’s infidelity or with the living proof of the offspring sired thereof.
I have heard explanations from the village elders of how such and such’s son could not marry such and such’s daughter because they share the same father — the result of an adulterous affair!
Nowadays it is no longer uncommon for married couples to have separate sexual partners.
While in the olden days it was common amongst working women, these days the infidelity has extended to the home defenders — non-working mothers or full-time housewives!
Amukaka, amabhodhoro nanyakabuse wemombe have taken over the matrimonial bed!
And no one seems to give a hoot about that!
Married men and women are known to take commercial breaks out of their lunch time and have sex trysts.
The other day, I went for a drink with some friends at this suburban restaurant and there was this beautiful little car that was innocently parked.
After about two and half hours a Land-Rover arrived with two occupants — a man and woman.
Before dropping off, the woman gave the man a peck on the cheek and walked to the ‘innocent car’ that we found parked at the restaurant.
Do not judge, says the Bible.
But in this case it was difficult not to judge and conclude that the man and woman were coming from an illicit sexual encounter.
It was clear both of them were married, but not to each other.
It was also clear from the body language of the woman that she was coming from a ‘two-hour lodge encounter’!
That started a heated debate amongst us fuelled by speculation that the couple could have been adulterating themselves.
Colleagues shared personal testimonies of how they had had their own ‘innocent car’ moments and how common it was amongst working people.
Another particularly irking point for Mainini is the infidelity amongst ‘men and women of the cloth’.
Married laity have not been spared as the infidelity is also extending to married partners from their flock.
Such cheek in this day and age! HIV?
The increasing figures of sexually transmitted infections do not even serve as a deterrent any more.
The worst part is they do not even use protective clothing when they engage in these acts?
Otherwise how would one explain the shocking rising figures of sexually transmitted infections?
One of the firm guiding laws for these men and women of the cloth ironically is, ‘Do not commit adultery’!
Soiling the Lord’s temple?
Does not the Bible say, the human body is the temple of the Lord?
Not only are the men and women of the cloth doing it amongst themselves — they are extending their infidelity to married members of their flock.
Kunyenga vana mai ruwadzano nekunyengwa nanababa vabvuwi!
While adultery is wrong for the ordinary married person, the condemnation is worse for the clergy and the laity.
These people purport to serve God and they should guard against such sins of the flesh and leave these for the unsaved.
Just recently I heard of two married pastors from a popular church who adulterated themselves in the church office!
What happened to the wedding vows of one-man, one-wife?
What happened to the vows of serving God’s will with unadulterated bodies?
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